to accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can
and the wisdom to know the difference.
By now, you’ve seen this verse/ prayer around. But did you know that this thinking will also free your mind to enhance your creativity?
It’s always a little heartbreaking to have someone come into the shop looking for a bead of a specific color, shape, size, and material, and not have to offer exactly what they are looking for. These people are on a mission for one specific thing, and for some, nothing else will satisfy them. It seems that there is nothing I can do about it except to offer my regret that I cannot help them more.
I will always show them what is similar to what they are looking for, and other options that they have for completing their project without that specific thing. Some people are receptive to this and some are not. Some people get quite upset that we don’t have what they want. I suffer a little bit with them.
In a past career as a corporate trainer, I took away a valuable visual model for freeing the mind of unnecessary distress. We can put all the things we can put our attention on into one of three categories: what we can control, what we can influence, and what we have no control or influence over.
What we have no control or influence over: the past, the economy, terrorism, the weather, the seasons, the price of silver, what we find when we are looking for something, what other people want and need.
What we can control: our own behavior, our choices, our willingness to learn something new, our actions in educating ourselves, our flexibility in opening our view, whether we seek help or go it on our own, whether we focus on what is available to us or what is not available to us, the requests that we make, whether we make requests or demands, whether we are open to receiving.
What we can influence: other people’s behavior in responding to us, our health, our community and society, our satisfaction.
The more we put attention on what we have no control or influence over, the more we increase our stress, and the smaller our circle of influence becomes. Putting our attention on what we can control, reduces our stress, and as a nice side effect, increases what we have influence over. We can influence how people respond to us by whether we are focusing on things we have no control over or things that we do.
We had Marilyn Peters teach a class at Bead Inspirations last weekend. She helped people design their multi-dimensional bracelets, using the materials we had in the shop, including Swarovski pearls, crystals, and seed beads. What was delightful for me to witness is how she helped people focus on what products we had that they could make their projects with. There was never a comment about what we didn’t have. I was heartened because I knew that this focus would help the students’ creativity flourish. I loved seeing the pallets they chose and can’t wait to see the finished bracelets!
For those who live outside of the area, take heart! We are in the process of putting instructions for our kits on our website. It will take time, so please have patience, and stay tuned. Those on our email list will be notified as they come online. The first one done is our popular Autumn Love necklace. Thanks to Carol Bernau, Bead Inspirations instructor and staff member for writing these up and putting them online.
It is a good reminder for me to remember to be open to receiving the blessings of the universe. I’m choosing to be open to where my blessings will come from, rather than try to control this. I will also choose to be grateful for what I do receive, and free up my creative spirit to do its thing.